At least it wasn't a text message
OK. So, my recent dating experiment has come to a SCREECHING halt.
Last night as I was driving home from rugby, Mr. X called and sounded a bit edgy. He was a little upset because I misunderstood a joke of his (he referred to himself in the 3rd person--i gave him the look from hell but he honestly meant it as a joke). We talked about it and I thought things were cool.
Until I got home.
When I got home, he called again to say he wasn't comfortable with how things were going. He said that he felt like we were acting like friends and nothing more.
I countered with the fact that I don't ordinarily make out with my friends -- sometimes if I'm REALLY drunk I will. (just kidding) ;-)
The gist of his argument was that he felt I wasn't as into him as he was into me.
Now, this conversation is immediately after us having a great weekend together. We watched Wimbledon together and had a wonderful time. We also went out to dinner and had a nice long talk about our relationship and the need to progress slowly, but it was all positive stuff. We both liked each other and felt we had a lot in common. I interrogated him on his inability to have a relationship longer than 6 weeks because that really bothered me, but he seemed to give a valid answer and said "that was then, this is now."
So, the phone call last night really surprised the hell out of me. I was really quiet on the phone trying to absorb everything, I assured him that I liked him and wanted to continue dating.
So, last night I e-mailed him and kind of reiterated that I wanted to continue dating and see where it lead.
He e-mailed back with, "Let's just be friends who are attracted to each other." Ouch! That hurt, not because of what he said (he wrote a lot more than that), but the way he said it. I was hoping that I had at least rated enough to get a fucking phone call.
I mean, it's been 5 weeks. For me that's a drop in the water, but for him that's an eternity. I would think a phone call is warranted here.
But I guess, not.
At least he didn't text message me.
Last night as I was driving home from rugby, Mr. X called and sounded a bit edgy. He was a little upset because I misunderstood a joke of his (he referred to himself in the 3rd person--i gave him the look from hell but he honestly meant it as a joke). We talked about it and I thought things were cool.
Until I got home.
When I got home, he called again to say he wasn't comfortable with how things were going. He said that he felt like we were acting like friends and nothing more.
I countered with the fact that I don't ordinarily make out with my friends -- sometimes if I'm REALLY drunk I will. (just kidding) ;-)
The gist of his argument was that he felt I wasn't as into him as he was into me.
Now, this conversation is immediately after us having a great weekend together. We watched Wimbledon together and had a wonderful time. We also went out to dinner and had a nice long talk about our relationship and the need to progress slowly, but it was all positive stuff. We both liked each other and felt we had a lot in common. I interrogated him on his inability to have a relationship longer than 6 weeks because that really bothered me, but he seemed to give a valid answer and said "that was then, this is now."
So, the phone call last night really surprised the hell out of me. I was really quiet on the phone trying to absorb everything, I assured him that I liked him and wanted to continue dating.
So, last night I e-mailed him and kind of reiterated that I wanted to continue dating and see where it lead.
He e-mailed back with, "Let's just be friends who are attracted to each other." Ouch! That hurt, not because of what he said (he wrote a lot more than that), but the way he said it. I was hoping that I had at least rated enough to get a fucking phone call.
I mean, it's been 5 weeks. For me that's a drop in the water, but for him that's an eternity. I would think a phone call is warranted here.
But I guess, not.
At least he didn't text message me.
posted by VeryApeAZ at
1:11 PM
8 Comments:
Or for that matter a post-it note left on your laptop....men!!
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Anonymous, At
Thu Jul 07, 03:01:00 PM MST
Well, I can't speak for your special friend, but I can tell you that when I've been in similar situations to him, I may have been know occasionally to push someone away before they had the chance to push me away.
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PJS, At
Thu Jul 07, 06:57:00 PM MST
of course, i meant "KNOWN". Ugh, I hate blogger comment typos; they're utterly unfixable.
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PJS, At
Thu Jul 07, 06:57:00 PM MST
You deserved a phone call not an email. I think he is afraid. If he wants to run, let him. He is the loser!
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Anonymous, At
Fri Jul 08, 06:21:00 AM MST
Ugh! An email, no call! He sounds really confused to me.
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Anonymous, At
Fri Jul 08, 06:22:00 AM MST
I dunno if u´d read my post about "the hole" it´s a porn parody movie based on "the ring", tells the story about a videotape that, after 7 days, turns every one who watch it into gay...
Your situation reminds me one of it scenes:
After being turned into gay, two fellas started a relationship... they´re apparently in love and happy with this new level reached in their frienship. After a week, when asked about his friend, one of the guys say: “he went out alone tonight...we´ve been a gay couple for 5 days and he told me we should start seeing other people...”.
My point is this; why tha hell gay men are so bitchy when we re involved into a new relashionship? Isn´t it what we re waiting for?
Oh, by the way, the guy who says that line is your ASSHOLE: JASON ADONIS.
Hugs!. Ian
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Ian Gutierrez, At
Fri Jul 08, 04:27:00 PM MST
LOL.. I love me some Jason!
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VeryApeAZ, At
Fri Jul 08, 04:59:00 PM MST
yeah...exactly...
By
Ian Gutierrez, At
Sat Jul 09, 05:49:00 AM MST
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